More and more I wonder if issues of sex are really issues of youth. Our civilization used to place a premium on age, on wisdom and experience and all that, but no more. Now we're killing ourselves to look young, act young, sound young, feel young. The most extreme version is what Chris Hansen regularly tracks down, and it blows my mind that there's really a whole subculture of men for whom the females simply can't be young enough. It's huge and it really needs to be accounted for -- police looked up my neighbor across the hall from me for kiddie porn and another neighbor had him kicked out. But more on this topic, I think of a Weiner or a Spitzer, and on some irrational level they may feel, I've been a reasonably good boy all this time, fulfilling the right forms, fighting the good fight -- when do I get to cut loose like everyone else seems to? There's something frantic in this, as if they're desperate not to miss out on something, or perhaps even to vindicate some poverty of the past.
Such thoughts cross my mind as I consider my own vague once-in-a-great-while relationship with a hot woman half my age. It's consensual, mature, sweet, all that -- but for the life of me I don't really see it going anywhere. If this happened to me as a married man, would I seriously turn it down? I like to think I'd be sensible enough, but I really don't know. Men can be peculiarly vulnerable like this. Rielle Hunter tells John Edwards he's hot and boom, he's thrown off balance. (Not that Edwards matters so much, years ago I saw him talk to Charlie Rose and I finally figured out that the man was an empty mask.)
But Bio is right, this is a hell of an assumption to make about what constitutes an icebreaker. Trouble is, this has been going on forever. One politician once walked right up to Shirley Temple (Black by then, I suppose) and told her for the longest time he had wanted to fuck her. She was not pleased. (Hell, I even think of Q_BE chatting up Rachel Aldana by offering to suck her nipples.)
Now, this business with Weiner and Ginger Lee, that's a little more typical.