Thanks **05** and R&D for your replies as well. I'm leaning very much towards staying with her and seeing what happens. I've never encountered something like this so I think I'll see if we can just stay happy for a long while without sex untill I know where things seem to be going. I know I said I love her, and I do, but it's in such an early state of it I know I have to be careful of the lovebird stage. As long as I'm just throwing personal things on the net, I'll also share the fact that I truely, and honestly have a terrible relationship with condoms. Things can go from instantly ready to dead in a heartbeat with me when condoms come into question. I always think that a woman will think that is a line, but believe me, I'd way rather be having sex with a condom than nothing! It's all mental, but boy, that is a hard subject to get out of your mind. The more you think about it, the worse the problem gets! Clearly I am going to have to figure out a way to get rid of the condom complex now, which of course only puts more pressure on the fact! Nobody said life was easy, and whoever said that saying first was dead on!
Pal replies: nobody likes using condoms... to me, it's practically a sin not to enjoy every iota of sensation... every molecule of body fluid, every delightful bit of friction. But I suppose some guys might dislike it more than others... the libido can be a tricky and unpredictible thing sometimes. Since you'll (presumably) still need to consider birth control even if you eventually decide to have unprotected sex... condoms would be doubly useful. If it might be the reduced sensation or poor fit that makes them such a turn-off for you, you might try a different kind: there are extra-thin ones and some that come in different sizes for a better fit. Maybe that will help. -Pal