In response to your rant:
I was 14. Except for making me the breast-obsessed freak I am today, I don't think it did that much harm to me.
On the other hand, I'm really worried about the 15-year old, rather mature looking (stacked) girl that, I guess, seduced me. I mean, she was actually willing to walk up to a younger guy she had never spoken to before, a known total geek at that, grab him by the you-know-what and pull him into the nearest bathroom. And, which I eventually found out years later, all this because of a rumour about his... size. If a 15-year old girl would do that, it likely means that she has a fair degree of experience, which isn't exactly a good thing at that age. Her choice of friends went from bad to worse. I learned that she dropped out of high school, and I haven't heard a thing ever since.
Middle-class people don't think that this sort of thing could happen to anybody close to them, but it does. There was an armed robbery outside of the town I grew up in earlier this year. A few masked robbers broke into a house, threatened the couple who lived there at gunpoint for several hours, shot the wife (who nearly died), and ran off with all their savings. It was all over the local papers, of course. Well, it turns out that the guy with the gun who they eventually caught and convicted for attempted murder was a guy whose family I've known since he was a baby. We were neighbours. I used to play a lot with his older brother, and my sister went to school with him. His parents are great people, and he had a very protected childhood. Nonetheless, it seems like he started hanging out with the worst possible crowd right after I moved out of town. His newfound "role model" older pal is currently doing ten years in maximum security, and he only got away with a shorter sentence himself because he was **08**.

I'm truly sorry to hear about your friend. This comes from a guy who's seen two little girls singing at their mother's funeral after she commited suicide. Young people dying is always a tragedy.
Well, that ought to kill this thread off... sorry.