so, nobody into transsexuals? 
I am, though generally my fantasy of a transsexual lover is to have a gf with a penis. Kind of a bi-girl's "best of both worlds" fantasy lover hehe.
But I know most transsexuals understandably don't want to stay in that hybrid-gender condition.
Ultimately it is the personality above all else in my book. Physical form is just a sort of artistic playground for my fantasies (and morphs). In a relationship, the creature behind the eyes is everything.
I think the best way to go is to find someone who's really into you as a person, and also happens to be cool with your unusual past/present/future journey.
But looking for someone who's "into it" could be a perfectly valid path to finding such a person
My best friend in the 2000's was transsexual. She got married & we kinda lost touch. She was (is, presumably) a pretty amazing person. Brilliant, funny, kind, noble, kinky
hehe. I crushed on her pretty hard. It's the main reason we drifted apart. I didn't want to mess up her marriage. And I didn't completely trust myself not to. Besides, it's a big world, and I'm not inclined to play the role of Tantalus. Also, she was very sub, and I'm not especially deep into bdsm myself.