Hi DE,
All good suggestions on your part... can't believe that I didn't think of those. However, like some of the women I suggested (and on that list) some of the ones you listed are simply sexy, without any strangeness about it.
I mean: Thora Birch, Ann Archer, Amy Madigan, Alberta Watson (who I met once in London during "Spanking the Monkey" at a film festival... she's even sexier in person) are all simply extremely desirable, period. The only kind of fellow that would consider their appeal to be truly out of the ordinary would be someone who was so brainwashed by media to consider anything other than Pam Anderson clones to be unacceptable.
Cindy Pickett I'm not familiar with, but I assume that she's tasty from your description.
See, Judy Densch (your spelling is probably correct, I'm just too lazy to check) would be a better example of strangely sexy... can a 20-50 year old heterosexual male find her physically arousing? I think so, maybe... My lack of imagination is keeping me from coming up with any more good candidates OTHER than those who might be on the fringes of desirability due to the age difference.
Helen Mirren, Kate Mulgrew, Emma Thompson.... again all delightfully fuckable-looking (and I mean that in the most respectful way possible

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Hmmmm........
Also re: Sandra Berhardt... haven't seen her lately (she barely made the B-list of celebs, and most of that was via her friendship w/Madonna) but as I recall (from the King of Comedy mostly) she had a certain desirable quality despite her abrasive personality, skinny figure and scowling expression. I don't think it'd take too many shots (of alcohol) to make that a possibility.