[MunchWolf]

Is pac having a norman bates moment?

-Munch "gives a new twist on the shower scene" Wolf

[Real]

hot women in general live a charmed life.  big tits being attractive are definitely often part of the equation though..

[MrsPacman1]

Thanks for the shout out, Shara! 

I know I can get through to her—the buttkicker is, she doesn't often wear bras that fit, mostly because there really are no bras for someone her size. This, I feel, is the primary reason she dislikes her breasts. They are very difficult for her to have, and I'd wager if she could cut down on the pain she experiences, her attitude would change, as well.

Q-"Wish me luck!"-BE

May I suggest taking her to the nearest specialty bra store and buying her a new bra? She could be fitted by experts and find something comfortable for her. Since she has taken you in as a "project", perhaps she would see it as a way to try and prove you wrong. Even though we all know she will feel better both physically and emotionally -- YOU will obviously reap the benefits being able to give her that. She may not ever admit it, but it could be a step in the right direction.  Namely, your direction.

For the record - yes, we like receiving lingerie as gifts. As long as we can pick it out and try it on first!

You can still delete the post if it's within the 24-hour window.

Q-"Try and see"-BE

Silly Pac...

I think I will leave that up as a reminder for him. If nothing else, it's hilarious! My post must have gotten you pretty worked up there -- you never commit those kinds of internet faux pas.

Mrs*and no I don't have a rod*Pacman

[MunchWolf]

What A-Rod may look like:

-Munch "I hope this isn't in Pac's pants" Wolf

[dfdf]

Well I don't think I need to add more to what's already been said. Quite frankly I find naive and somewhat sexist that one would try to proclaim that a woman's happiness and success is somehow proportional to her bust size especially when there are numerous accounts by busty women themselves revealing otherwise. Part me wonders whether this some warped defense mechanization some BE fans have rationalized for themselves so they don't have to think about the actually realities that busty women face. I'm sure there are some potential advantages to being busty but certainly not enough assume that busty women have to good and unfortunately as shown be the list above, it's not even enough to outweigh the potential negatives.  

[Pipatel]

Hmmm. If you're a model, and your big boobs support you financially... then my guess would be that yes, you lead a charmed life.

For those of us who live in the real world, and choose not to make a living with our big boobs...I can answer that question.

If by CHARMED you mean:

Not being taken seriously, especially when you're dealing with lesser evolved men.
Little or no eye contact. Ever.
Not fitting into your size clothing, and having to decide on looking bigger overall (larger sizes) or too tight clothing, thus giving the perception of you attracting (unwanted) attention.
Not having many women friends.
Always wondering if you were treated well because you were smart, talented, witty, etc...or if it was because you have big boobs.
Backaches, neck aches, headaches and poor posture. I don't care how fit you are...it happens. Period.
Not finding bra's that you like (as discussed in another thread).
Rashes, sweat and discomfort ALL year...not just the summer months (as discussed in another thread).
Pictures and video being taken of you without your permission to be used on various websites, blogs and God knows where else (oh snap).
Not seeing the ground very often, and tripping over items blocked from view.
The stares...both positive and negative. Especially the ones where someone's husband can't keep his tongue in his mouth while he's with his wife and little ones (UGH!!).
People, namely men, expecting you to enjoy and even reciprocate their attentions (ring a bell anyone?).

Then I guess we DO lead a charmed life!

Hell, I like having the boobs I have...and would like to have bigger. But that's for me. Not for anyone else. Well, maybe for Pacman  . However, for every positive thing I have ever had happen as a direct result of my boobs....there's double the negative. I will agree with Feral on this one for the most part.

Mrs*the free drinks Pac and I used to get were pretty cool, though*Pacman

Probably depends on where you are located too. I doubt you would cause that much attention in Las Vegas, but you will always stand out in a more conservative environment.

In the end anyone who is visibly different than average joe/jane - be it breasts, heavily tattooed, dressing habits, sexual orientation / kinks / fetishes etc. - will have to deal with similar shit from their peers.

The question is if you would rather be ordinary or remain extraordinary with all its consequences.

[bignatslover]

I feel your pain ladies, and I sense a mob uprising against my initial thesis.

Just keep in mind the other side of it too.  One of your own gender (who is speaking from the flat-chested side) has spoken in favor of the thesis (with a strong-worded final sentence, especially)

from Nora Ephron: “A Few Words about Breasts.” Crazy Salad. 1975:
I am nonetheless obsessed by breasts. I cannot help it. I grew up in the terrible Fifties -- with rigid stereotypical sex roles, the insistence that men be men and dress like men and women be women and dress like women, the intolerance of androgyny -- and I cannot shake it, cannot shake my feelings of inadequacy. Well, that time is gone, right? All those exaggerated examples of breast worship are gone, is gone, right? Those women were freaks, right? I know all that. And yet, here I am, stuck with the psychological remains of it all, stuck with my own peculiar version of breast worship. You probably think I am crazy to go on like this: Here I have set out to write confession that is meant to hit you with the shock of recognition and instead you are sitting there thinking I am thoroughly warped. Well, what can I tell you? If I had had them, I would have been a completely different person. I honestly believe that.

After I went into therapy, a process that made it possible for me to tell total strangers at cocktail parties that breasts were the hang-up of my life, I was often told that I was insane to have been bothered by my condition. I was also frequently told, by close friends, that I was extremely boring on the subject. And my girlfriends, the ones with nice big breasts, would go on endlessly about how their lives have been far more miserable than mine. Their bra strips were snapped in class. They couldn't **82** on their stomachs. They were stared at whenever the word "mountain" cropped up in geography. They had a terrible time of it, they assure me. I don't know how lucky I was, they say.

I have thought about their remarks, tried to put myself in their place, considered their point of view. I think they are full of shit.

[Top_Forty]

generally, no, I don't think they do.

but there are always exceptions.

[MrsPacman1]

What A-Rod may look like:

-Munch "I hope this isn't in Pac's pants" Wolf

The bat...? You guessed it! If we're strictly comparing the size of it...that's a pretty close match. BTW: Nice to see you, Munch.

Well I don't think I need to add more to what's already been said. Quite frankly I find naive and somewhat sexist that one would try to proclaim that a woman's happiness and success is somehow proportional to her bust size especially when there are numerous accounts by busty women themselves revealing otherwise. Part me wonders whether this some warped defense mechanization some BE fans have rationalized for themselves so they don't have to think about the actually realities that busty women face.

Hallelujah! I'm glad somebody said something about it. Thank you for that 

Probably depends on where you are located too.

Personally, I'm in the land of beer and cheese.

The question is if you would rather be ordinary or remain extraordinary with all its consequences.

Actually, the question was "do we lead a charmed life?" That being said, I've already answered that I wouldn't change that part of myself. However, I can't speak for everyone else.

I feel your pain ladies, and I sense a mob uprising against my initial thesis.

Just keep in mind the other side of it too.  One of your own gender (who is speaking from the flat-chested side) has spoken in favor of the thesis (with a strong-worded final sentence, especially)

from Nora Ephron: “A Few Words about Breasts.” Crazy Salad. 1975:
my girlfriends, the ones with nice big breasts, would go on endlessly about how their lives have been far more miserable than mine. Their bra strips were snapped in class. They couldn't **82** on their stomachs. They were stared at whenever the word "mountain" cropped up in geography. They had a terrible time of it, they assure me. I don't know how lucky I was, they say.

I have thought about their remarks, tried to put myself in their place, considered their point of view. I think they are full of shit.

I laughed about this. Really laughed. Hard. I especially like the part of her feeling like she missed out on the sexual harassment as a schoolgirl. Really...? Come on! Things really hadn't changed much by the time I went to school.  Hey, everyone has a right to their opinion. In reality, she has no idea what she is talking about, not having walked in those shoes herself. I hope her therapy helped her.

If you really want to hear how charmed a life we lead, pay a model to blow smoke up your ass for an hour. I'm sure you'll get nothing but truth for the $$. If you wanted this thread to be just about the benefits of bountiful breasts in everyday life, then just ask that question. If you really want the truth, my (a normal lady who's proud of her J cups) version of it includes the not so pretty sides of life. It was a sincere attempt to give you a different perspective. At the end of the day, you believe what you want to...I'll be **83** on my side because I can't **82** comfortably any other way. 

Mrs*where the heck is Random X?*Pacman

[DruulEmpire]

I actually appreciate BNL's opening thesis -- so long as its terms are not taken with absolutist seriousness.  When he wrote of a "charmed life" I took it as a turn of phrase and maybe even a little bit of a provocation to discussion -- and clearly on that score it worked.

But surely everyone has heard the old "The grass is always greener" rule.  "Men lead a charmed life because they wield all the socio-economo-politico-historical power."  "Women lead a charmed life because they can wrap men around their little fingers."  "The old lead a charmed life because they've saved up all the dough and can golf all day long."  "The young lead a charmed life because, hey, they're young, and who doesn't want to be young?"  And on and on and on and on and on.  I"m willing to pursue this kind of "charmed life" talk with tongue squarely in cheek for a while or so in fiction, especially comic fiction, but the fact is that a charmed life by gender or age or whatever accident of DNA and time and geography basically does not exist.  The only charmed life is that of the idle rich, and even that comes with a lot of caveats.

This is admittedly a dumb dull point to make.  But once in a while it bears repeating.

[Pacman]

I lead a charmed life because I'm awesome.

[Q_BE]

I lead a charmed life because I'm awesome.

Is this Mr. or Mrs. Pacman?

Q-"Another user account switch error?"-BE

[Shara]

I lead a charmed life because I'm awesome.

....the power of three will set us free...

[eXoDuS]

Leading a charmed life (for anyone, big breasts or not) boils down to how you live it.  Sure, everyone is dealt a certain set of genetic cards, but it always comes back to how you play the game of life.  You can play shittily with an awesome hand, or awesomely with a shitty hand.  Trying to pass off the negatives or positives of your existence entirely on the accidents of DNA is a bit childish.

[RandomX]

Seriously Mrs.P, you read my mind with that list

Add to the list no real center of gravity (Proof can vouch for the fact I am the world's biggest klutz), and you have it nailed.

On the other hand, if you like boobs, who cares what others think about them? I love mine and want more. It's already hard to live with a big chest. If it is near impossible to fit into clothing already, might just go the whole 9 yards.


Getting ahead in life based on breasts is like **83** with people to get ahead. It might work but it'll get you a reputation and it'll do no good in the long run.

Mrs*where the heck is Random X?*Pacman

Yeah yeah, here's your reply. I was too busy writing you a frigging 15 page reply!