[ROUNDandHEAVY]

But my long time marriage and love is over.

My wife is leaving me. The stress of running a business together and being married, not to mention her spotty success with managing her bipolar condition, has proven to be to much for us. We have been in conselling for a while which is why I have been a no show around here, but unfortunately we were unable to mend.

I am pretty fucking miserable and it is taking every ounce of strength i posess to not fall into despair.

Wish me luck.

Bob

[Palomine]

SO sorry to hear this Bob... given your post I assume there's no chance at all of a reconciliation? I hope both of you can get through this process in one piece.

[ROUNDandHEAVY]

Its over. I don't think it will be anything but ugly because she wants to stay my partner even though she hasn't contributed to the business for the last three years.

[pedonbio]

Been there twice; it doesn't get easier, and I know that all the kind things friends try to say doesn't help. 

[solvegas]

Sorry to hear about this. I can only offer that somehow you are able to find comfort and good luck in the future. 

[Eyeguy]

Damn... that's rough for you, Bob.  If you need to talk about it, you've got friends here. 

[MasterDragonfly]

Bob, I'm trying to avoid quoting platitudes, but if reconciliation isn't an option, then lightening your (stress) load is the only way forward. Do you foresee much difficulty getting her out of the business equation?

When I called it splits with my ex, I was also facing financial challenges, not to mention unrelated pressures from the family. It seemed like I was never going to come up for air again. But I did.

If I can do it, you can do it. One stressor at a time.

[Tsunami2k]

hope things get better, maybe the seperation will be beneficial? or not...later down the road who knows, you two could be in each others arms again.

[Zorro]

In my 62 years wandering around on this planet I have had some really terrific women come into my life.

However the relationships that failed outnumbered the fantastic ones.

Every woman I have ever fell in love with betrayed me.

I do understand that I am not without blame for the failures.

It's just that as I got older I quit trying to have any partnership with women.
Now I am not a homosexual. I still love women even though I rather not live with any now.

Having the hobby of morphing keeps me busy.

It is hard when it happens though. My first wife left me 2 days after my mother's funeral in 1980.  My biggest mistake was taking her back.

My second ex preferred to have a sexual relationship with her own daughter.
 
I was devastated both times, but I recovered quicker the 2nd time.

It's never easy and most guys may become dangerous or suicidal. They may also try to self medicate with alcohol or drugs.

The point is you will get through this.

These days I prefer to live alone. No one bitches at me for doing morphs, or tells me when to go to bed and I get to eat all the ice cream I want.

[bignatslover]

Offering my sympathies man.  Don't have the perfect words for you, but I do believe things will get better from here.  Heck, it can hardly get worse.  I recently saw Louis CK the comedian and he does a bit about how he has now been divorced for five years and each year has been better than the last for him.