[Connoisseur]

The best way to talk to a huge-breasted woman is while wearing very dark sunglasses.  

[redtalon11]

Actually, the best way to talk to a hugely busty woman is in bed, with your head buried deep in her cleavage, so your voice is muffled.

Red Talon

Hey!  Look!  I've grown to an E-cup now!  Waaahoooo!

   

[**DONOTDELETE**]

I think there should also be a cause for acceptance of men who like huge breasted women. I think a lot of the problem is women themselves. If you say to a bbw that you like large women, then that's cool. However, if you say to a busty woman that you like huge breasts, suddenly they think thats all you're after.

There are support groups and dating clubs for all sorts of women, there was even an article on a news site the other day about a new dating club for amputees and people that like them. Where are the dating clubs for busty women and the men who love them?? There are club nights and get togethers for bbws and their admirers. Where are the club nights and get togethers for busty women and their admirers?

I think there needs to be a general acceptance of busty women and men's rights to find them attractive. I can't help liking busty women, any more than someone can help being gay, but women look at you as some kind of pervert if you love huge breasts.

We should do a million boob march!!

cheers
BGB  

[steveo]

Yes, dark sunglasses have been very useful to me from time to time.

[Tux]

Yes they are.  The ones that wrap are the best.  However the ever so popular ovaloid ones are compatable with my facial features (I have high cheek bones and a less nose than intended in the design of those glasses), thus I wear the silvered cycling/speed skating style dark glasses (completely uninterrupted view with total coverage of the eyes).  Yes I may look a bit out of place wearing them, yes I may look like Leon from "Bubblegum Crisis", but damn-it they work damn well. ^_^



"...Now go out and get yourself some big black frames,
With the glass so dark thay won't even know your name..."

[**DONOTDELETE**]

bgb, I don't think men who love large breasts are perverts. In fact, I'm very grateful that men in general find them attractive.

But I do think that guys that follow me through shopping malls like stalkers ARE perverts. Ever had anyone secretly take a photo of you while you were shopping??? Or follow you out of the building?? The point is, some guys, and most women have no idea that there is a real person in here, with feelings (and ears) that pretty much wants the same thing everyone else wants.....love, friendship, a nice life, and occasionally, a little privacy.
(End of rant)    

[bustykathi]

**Standing up and Cheering Loudly*** Irish Girl, you are right on the money!!!!

Those guys who insult and alarm us like that are the reason we are likely to take offense...we often don't know who will be the creep until it's too late. But, I can tell you, that following a woman around Wal Mart while she's shopping and asking her to "stick out your chest" so you can see it better and asking "How much to get those things wrapped around my face?" are NOT the approach that makes us feel kindly disposed toward "appreciative" men. This happened to me, and not too long ago, and all I did was, when he asked me where something was in the store, I smiled and told him. After that, I had a "klingon" that was entirely unwelcome!  

[**DONOTDELETE**]

The problem is that guys like that give us true breast lovers a bad name. It would be nice if busty women knew that there were guys out there who think they are beautiful, in the same way FA's like BBW's. Not just because of their chest, I can't speak for anyone else, but I wouldn't just want a pair of breasts on their own, its when they're attached to an attractive woman.

Like I said in an earlier post, there are 2 female friends I have at the moment who want breast reductions, and both said it was because of wankers making comments to them.

cheers
BGB

[brstfetish]

yikes! I'm a stalker! LOL
Well, I have to admit when I see a busty lady that I find very attractive I do follow the woman around but actually for a few seconds until I can reach her or until I see that she's more available for me to talk to her. If the opportunity is there and I find her very attractive I'm not going to let the opportunity pass by, I'm gonna take a chance. I try to be as polite and corteous as possible but if I sense that she's not comfortable I apologize and I leave quickly (with a red face lol). This is the way I met last week a very busty lady at the mall. I was at a store and I saw her looking at shoes, I passed by a couple of times to verify that I wasn't dreaming . Well, the third time I just went up to her and told her that she was beautiful and asked her if she was single. I posted this about 4 days ago. But on a followup note, I talked to her and she said that she's getting a breast reduction in about 2 months . I played dumb and started asking her questions and it turns out she has her bras custom made and she's not having the reduction for medical reasons although for insurance purposes she is if you know what I mean. She told me she has no back problems, but I get the feeling that like many of the buxom ladies she doesn't find her big breasts attractive and wants to get rid of them. I'm going to volunteer to give those 2 beauties a goodbye party that they will never forget! hehe. I wish she liked her breasts more but I'm not in her shoes so if it helps her then good.  

[**DONOTDELETE**]

Good on ya brstfetish. I've asked out quite a few women I've seen on the streets, and had some great relationships from it too. I find it crazy that there are only certain places like clubs and bars that you can chat people up.

The problem for breast lovers is that there are so few attracive women around, especially with all these breast reductions :-( . In a nightclub of hundreds of women there'd usually be one maybe two women that i'd find attractive. So, for me, its like, you only live once and if you see an attractive woman about and don't ask her out for a drink, you could be missing out on a great relationship, so why not?

As for a post earlier on about most men liking big breasts, I've realised that what most people class as big breasts isn't what people here would class as big breasts. I remember working with this guy who said he liked huge breasts. The only thing is that he thought an E cup was absolutely huge, and that a DD cup was big. I have never met a guy (apart form guys I've got to know through the big breast scene on the web) that like huge breasts. All my friends say more than a handfull is a waste. But none of them would make derogatory comments to busty women.

I just wish women would realise that there is no such thing as the ideal body. That everyone finds different people attractive. Yeah J-Lo is good looking, but she does nothing for me sexually. The media pushes this thin flat chested look as what is beautiful and most people fall for it :-(

cheers
BGB

[Connoisseur]

Bgb is really making some excellent and thought provoking points.

Although I've argued earlier in this thread that more men prefer large breasts than small, I have to agree with Bgb that this preference isn't the same as a breast man's preference for extremely huge breasts.   The best indication to me of the rarity of true breast men has been the relative indifference of most men to hugely endowed women in public places.  On the rare occasions that I spot such a woman, I always scope out the reactions of passersby.  Most men scarcely notice her.   In fact, it seems to me that women tend to react more noticeably.

I'd also like to "come out of the closet" and agree with Bgb that conventionally stunning women – e.g. Elizabeth Hurley, Debra Messing, Morgan Fairchild – do nothing for me sexually.  Sure, they're nice to look at.  But not much nicer than observing a beautiful flower or landscape.   Moreover, it's even the case that conventionally sexy women, such as Playboy playmates, aren't of interest to me.  For me, a truck load of these conventional beauties wouldn't compare to one plain, unglamorous, overweight (but not obese), woman whose breasts exceed a certain size.

Bgb is also correct in stating, despite Irish Girl's post, that woman do regard the love of huge breasts – not just the mild preference for them – as a perversion.   I have learned from experience to hold this aspect of my character as a closely guarded secret.
 

[Connoisseur]

Shannon & Busty Kathi,

I can certainly see how you'd regard some guy who follows you around as a creepy stalker.  While I'm not sure whether I'd qualify as a stalker by your definition, I don't in fact just walk away when I spot a hugely endowed woman.

Nor do I just walk up to such a woman -- within seconds of having spotted her – and ask her out.   That doesn't work well.  

Instead I observer her for the purpose of judging the best opportunity and working out the best approach that will allow me to get to know her.  Is she in fact as large-breasted as she initially appeared?  Is she with someone? Is she wearing a wedding ring?  What sort of merchandize is she examining?  What sort of conversation can I initiate relevant to this merchandize?  Is there a better conversation starter relative our immediate environment or the weather?  Is there some way in which I could be of assistance to her?  Does the situation lend itself to an opening remark that would simulate wit? Is she a store employee or otherwise likely to be encountered in the future?  Does she appear approachable?  What info can I gather from her appearance; is she primarily an academic, a business woman, a professional, a student, or a mother?  Does she seem self-confident enough to be receptive to a compliment?

If she starts walking off before I've answered any of these questions, I don't just think, "Oh, well.  Another precious opportunity lost."  No.  I'll follow her to the next shop and attempt to approach her there.  If that makes me a stalker, so be it.

Perhaps a fanciful analogy might help explain the situation from the "stalker's" point of view.   Suppose that a plague wiped out 99.99% of the male population.  Suppose further that the overwhelming majority of the surviving female population has turned to lesbianism.  You, however, remain a fervent but closeted  heterosexual.   One day something happens that will only occur a few times in your life – you spot an actual man.  You realize that if you approach him in just the right way, it could lead to a fundamentally satisfying and life-altering experience – possibly a life-long relationship.   If you fumble your approach, you must return to your unfulfilling life as closeted heterosexual.   With so much at stake, my guess is that you do a little "stalking" of your own.

The reason that this analogy isn't as fanciful as it might at first appear was given by Bgb. True breast men are for the most part sexually insensitive to all but a tiny fraction of the female population.  This fraction is no greater than one in ten thousand women.  And I would guess that one in fifty-thousand is a better estimate.

If you ladies do fall within that tiny group, I hope this helps you to understand how certain men might react to you.

--Connoisseur

P.S. I hope that the above makes it completely clear that men who verbally assault women with irritating remarks cannot possibly be true breast men (unless, of course, they are also total morons).

     

[Booby_Trapped]

Connoisseur wrote:
'The answer to psychological discomfort, besides increasing tit acceptance as you've suggested, is to somehow make big tits "cool". '

All you have to do is change the entire nation ideals on fat.  As for as american culture goes it's:

Large breasts = lots of fat = unhealthy = uncool.
Small breasts = little fat = healthy = cool.

Even on the "slim and stacked" variety of women, large breast are seen as cumbersome and reducing the athletic performance of the woman who possess them.  And most people believe that their weight is so much, as to not allow the women who have them to lead the most active lifestyle that they can lead.  This logic also carries over the the bedroom where it is believe that busty woman are not as active as their non-busty counterpart.

Of course, large-breasted attraction is purely psychological.  And this attraction is based on the belief that bustier women are more sensual.  So all we need to do is to play up this attraction.    

[Connoisseur]

"So all we need to do is to play up this attraction."

Got anything specific in mind?